I tend to like interiors a little sleek, plain but with a feminine touch. I think compromising is SO important when decorating as a couple. It took some persuading when we first moved in, but we totally compromised when decorating. What would the point be if your the only one happy about the decor?! I’m much happier knowing that my boyfriend has had his input and decisions along the way. You need to learn how to blend your styles together. As much, as I’d love to have my own flat – which I could go crazy with decorating my way. I’m not in that situation and have a whole house and man to cater and take opinions on board from. My boyfriend originally said he didn’t really care too much about the decor, but it soon came to light that he really did. Especially in the kitchen!
Prioritise what is important to both of you
Each make a list of what is important to you. It may be that one of you want something ‘inexpensive, comfortable and calming’, while the other want’s something ‘stylish, modern and sleek’. When I moved in with my boyfriend, he wanted a huge TV in our living room, kitchen and bedroom. We compromised to a 50 inch TV in the living room and we’re about to add one a little smaller in the kitchen. He not only compromised the size, but also left the TV in the bedroom out. You can probably imagine my relief. I hate the idea of the bedroom being somewhere to slob out in the day. I swear I would never get out of bed if Netflix were just a remote switch away. In this day and age, iPad, phones and tablets can stream TV. So, if I ever fancy a day in bed or to doze off to the sound of the Kardashians (yes, I know – it happens!). I simply stream it from my iPad. I never forced the decision on him to not have one in the bedroom, but he compromised to just have the ones downstairs. Which lets face it…they are either hooked up to his PlayStation or we’re both watching soaps and TV series in the evening. There are only two of us; so three TV’s would be a little excessive.
Create a neutral palette
Neutral colours can be both masculine and sleek. Most of our walls are either white or grey. Grey walls are great as it is both neutral and warm. My boyfriend was surprised at how many shades of white and grey there really is. Of course, if you both like something a little more daring like red or blue – go for that.
Add in the accessories
Accessories are the perfect way to add in both of your personalities. My boyfriend has a random love for globes, so we have a collection of chrome and monochromatic ones around the house. I’m obsessed with anything rabbit related, but keep my trinket boxes and ornaments under wrap on our bedroom dresser. We however, both love candles. We love scented ones which we burn and decorative ones which he has learnt his lesson not to burn – he’s made that mistake too many times in the past! So, throughout our whole house we have gone mad on candles. I can definitely say they are in every room, even the garage! Pick accessories and furniture, which have a feminine shape, but neutral colour. For example, we have a few lamps in our house that are very ‘shabby chic’ looking. But, they are not in a bright pink floral fabric or colourful ditsy print. I also have a love for floral bedding, but only have a couple of sets which are pink. The rest are either grey or white with a grey pattern. Accessories can be where you inject in a little something you love, as these don’t have to be permanent. Just for the record though, our pink floral bedding is the comfiest – so he says!
You need to find out what your partner can tolerate and what you can’t stand – then meet half way. I always find that going shopping together, where we can point out and pick furniture and accessories while being in each others supervision really helps. There will be nothing worse than coming home from what you think is a successfully shopping trip for your home, to find out they hate everything you bought.
If all else fails…
I also find if all else fails and you need them bright pink floral curtains in your hallway. You can always compromise something else not home related. If I’m all honest, my boyfriend hated the idea of white walls. He also described it as ‘clinical’ and ‘boring’. After nagging me for a new car last year, I agreed he could go ahead and purchase it if I could re-paint our last room in the house white. Guess who won? We both did. Although thinking about it now, the price of paint and a brand new car were in slightly different leagues.